May 22 2009

10 Ways to Instant Charisma

Charisma is defined as those magnetic qualities in certain individuals that enable them to dominate, influence others, and to win mass support. Since it is a basic trait of human nature that we all want to be admired, don’t hesitate to admit it. If we imagine about it, looking into many of our actions, we are really finding ways to validate ourselves and to satisfy this craving of being liked.

Have you ever found someone and immediately took a liking towards them? You can’t elucidate why, but you find a fondness and you wish to do things to help them. Here I’m not only discussing sexual attraction, but a real and guiltless feeling of affection towards another person.

In a job interview, you are more probable to be employed if the interviewer is attracted to your personality and unique look. In a business affair, you are more probable to get deals done and gain privileges. In a personal affair, you are probable to gain trust and loyal friendships.

When we make a decision that we like someone, it is a mental process that we cannot rather articulate. It’s not a mystery that we make decisions with regard to our emotions and rationalize them using logic. So, does this indicate that we can overpower an emotional decision that occurs subconsciously?

I suppose that decisions can be overpowered. I believe that the qualities of an admirable person can be figured out and developed in an effective manner.

Charisma – How to Get It

Apart from being gentle, polite and respectful, there are numerous other things we should care about. I’m not telling you to be a pretender, but be attentive to these traits when engaged in a conversation. These little qualities make quite a big difference in how others evaluate us.

1- Building a Presence

Building a Presence

The primary component of charisma is “presence.” Presence, as described here, pertains to the ability of commanding gracious attention.

To shed light on presence further, look upon it more particularly as how you bear yourself. Imagine a Lotus in a parking lot of Fords. The Lotus stands alone – as a European sports car, it’s glossy and elegantly detailed as compared to the traditional and tedious Fords. It’s not in action, it’s not moving – it’s not doing a single thing and yet you’re attracted to it because of its sleek features. That’s what we call Presence…

Presence is very essential in the whole Charisma thing… It is the most basic step of creating a “first impression”. As various elements constitute charisma, so do various elements create presence.

When making up an aura of charisma, you’re making use of this instinct to your advantage (which most individuals can’t command because they’re unaware that it is something occurring in their subconscious). Let’s look at this analogy: If you look like a gangster, you’ll be evaluated as probably being a gangster. If you look like you’re gay, you’ll be evaluated as probably being gay. And if you look like a magnetic person used to respect and even admiration, you will be evaluated as a person who is probably charismatic and worthy of respect and even admiration.

2- Mirroring


Mirroring is defined as the habit of imitating the other person’s physical mannerisms, movements and facial expressions when engaged in a conversation. You become a mirror image of the person you’re trying to imitate.

Mirroring occurs naturally in social interactions, but when you are attentive of it and are conscious of its affects, it can be employed as a tool in effective communication for generating rapport.

Mirroring a person strongly will make you feel what they’re feeling (to a particular extent). I did a mirroring exercise myself, in a group of three, on a workshop. The first person initiates by envisioning a scene; imagination, feeling and experiencing it closely. The second person copies this person’s facial expressions and physical postures. The third person lines up the second person’s facial expressions and physical postures until he’s convinced that they are identical. Later on, the second person clears up what he/she was feeling. Not only does the second person feel the feelings of the first person, but will at times see what the first person is seeing in his imaginativeness. I was kind of astonished after trying this out, myself.

Try mirroring facial expressions, posture and body language when get a chance while engaged in a conversation with someone. You will soon discover that the conversation abruptly feels very friendly, open and favorable.

For instance, you are sitting across the table from someone. You see them holding a glass of water with their left hand and gently inclining forward, then to the right. You mirror them by taking up your glass of water with your right hand, leaning forward and towards the left.

It’s a fun thing to do!

3- Remembering Names

Remembering Names

In person, I’m quite impressed when others I’ve just seen remember my name and use it in a sentence. Our family, parents, teachers, friends, and family, have hard wired the sound of our name in our brain since birth. It is obvious to attract your attention without any delay. It makes us feel authoritative and honored, filling our desire for attention, love and affection.

Remember the last time someone who you just met parted by saying “Nice meeting you, [insert your name]!” Didn’t you like it? They are actually paying enough attention to remember your name, and you naturally feel like showing them the same respect.

Always try to make an effort to remember people’s names.

4- Be Interested

Be Interested

As I’ve already discussed, people love talking about themselves, badly!

Don’t hesitate to ask questions that the other person will love to answer. If you’re talking to a complete stranger, start with the basics and dig deeper. Repeat their words to ensure you really understand what they’re saying. You can imagine this technique as verbal mirroring. When you’re asking questions about their interests or feelings, you actually mirror their interest in themselves.

Pay attention to the other person’s answers. Only when you are listening will you truly take up what was expressed and will actually feel interested. If you come across an uninteresting conversation, find ideas that do interest you and re-focus the conversation. Ask questions. Play it!

5- Allowing Others to Talk

Allowing Others to Talk

Besides asking questions, it’s very important to allow the other person to talk. This says, stop talking. Stop talking about yourself, stop putting in your views, and avoid interrupting.

When you are engaged in a conversation next time, try not to talk about anything after asking a question. This means do not speak for a few minutes. Even when the other person appears to be finished, try not to speak for another 30 seconds. Most often, the person is still thinking, is actually pausing, and will start speaking again. With this technique, you are probable to dig up a lot more depth from that person.

Many females I know hain theve these interruption problems (males too!). Work harder on this skill; and you’ll be shocked at the wealth of thoughtful goodness coming from your partner. Being a humble listener is an excellent way to connect with and get to know other people.

Things to do: Ask a question and then zip up. Listen and learn.

6- Intention


Give out the intention that you would love to get to know this person better, to really listen to them and to be there for them. I’m always astonished at the power of intention, which I believe is the source of starting anything, whether it is an ambition or a relationship.

Make a wish for the other person you’re talking to/ interacting with. Give out a positive intention for your interaction.

7- Offer Help

Offer Help

We are naturally self-seeking and are driven by motivations that help us, leaving off some extreme cases and parent-child relationships. But let’s face it; we are mainly self-seeking because it is a natural element of our survival instincts. Yet if we are working on a good cause, we always have a reason for helping that is personally gainful.

When others genuinely offer their help, we feel particularly warm-hearted towards them. Why? Offering help is a positive gesture that involves a respect and admiration for you. And when we put ourselves in their shoes, wouldn’t it be beneficial to offer help to others?

I strongly believe in giving more than I take in return. Offer help to others accept help when you need it.

8- Smile


“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy. Because of your smile, you make life more beautiful.”
- Thich Nhat Hanh

Do you retrieve how you felt when you saw a genuine smile? Or clumsily standing in an elevator full of strangers and suddenly someone smiles at you? It is actually contagious and shifts your state to a positive one.

Smile genuinely. Take the first step by smiling at friends. Make an effort to lift the spirits of passing strangers.

9- No Fear

No Fear

If you wish to have mystique, you’re going to have to drop all irrational fear and be a rockstar! That doesn’t suggest you won’t get scared if someone comes to you with a gun. It just entails if your life isn’t in any real or perceived danger, you don’t blench.

Don’t be terrified to say what other people are frightened to say, or do what most people want to do, but are afraid to. Don’t be nervous to be controversial, but don’t just do it deliberately. Controversy gets people thinking, and that helps you to be the center of attention.

10- Authenticity


Any of the above skills will work by themselves, but become highly efficient only when combined with genuineness.

Always be authentic and be your complete self, no more and no less. When you are totally sincere and speaking from your heart, you will triumph a kind of energy that people cannot help but to connect with. In that moment, you are perfect, expressive, and radiating your true self. When others find out that side of you, they are truly seeing a reflection of that part of themselves.

Just be yourself, and you will simply be awe-inspiring.

May 14 2009

Are You Suffering From 15 Strangest Conditions of the Human Mind

Strange conditions of Human Mind

The human mind is a tremendous thing – there are so many facts revealed about it, and so many things which still remain an enigma for us. Science is struggling to explain such strange developments, but still unable to describe their actual origins. Although majority of us are already familiar of a few mental conditions on this list, several others are very strange, unfamiliar and beyond the boundary of logical domain. Checkout if you have any of the following strangest mental conditions. Here is a collection of top 15 strangest conditions of the Human Mind.

1- Prosopagnosia


Prosopagnosia is a mental condition in which a person is ineffective to distinguish faces of people or objects that they should know. People going through this disorder are typically capable of using their other senses to recognize people – for instance a person’s perfume, the shape or style of their hair, the sound of their voice, or even their gait. A famous case of this phenomena was mentioned in the 1998 book (and later Opera by Michael Nyman) called “The man who mistook his wife for a hat”.

2- Fregoli Delusion

Fregoli Delusion

Fregoli delusion is an uncommon mental condition in which a person holds the impression that different people are, in fact, the same person in an assortment of disguises. It is frequently related to paranoia and the impression that the person in disguise is attempting to persecute them. The delusion is named after the famous Italian actor Leopoldo Fregoli who was renowned for his skill to make quick changes of appearance during his stage act. It was first accounted in 1927 in the case study of a 27-year-old woman who thought she was being persecuted by two actors whom she often went to see at the theatre. She reported that these people “pursued her closely, taking the form of people she knows or meets”.

3- Capgras Delusion

Capgras Delusion

Capgras delusion is a mental condition in which a person believes that a close friend or family member has been replaced by an identical looking faker. This could be associated with the old belief that babies were slipped and replaced by changelings in medieval folklore, and the modern idea of aliens seizing the bodies of people on earth to live amongst us for reasons unknown. This delusion is frequent among those who are schizophrenic; however it can also occur in other disorders.

4- Nihilistic delusion

Nihilistic delusion

Nihilistic delusion is a condition whose theme centers on the nonexistence of self or parts of self, others, or the world. A person with this type of delusion may have the false hallucination that the world is ending.

5- Erotomania


Erotomania is a mental condition in which a person starts to think that another person, usually someone of higher status, is in love with him or her. It is, however, rare for people with this type of delusion to try to contact the other person (through phone calls, letters, emails, gifts, and sometimes stalking).

6- L’esprit de l’Escalier

L’esprit de l’Escalier

L’esprit de l’escalier (French= stairway wit) is the sensation of thinking of an ingenious counter when its too late. The phrase can be used to portray a comeback to an insult, or any witty, quick remark that comes to mind too late to be helpful—when one is on the “staircase” leaving behind. The German word “treppenwitz” stands for the same condition. In English, the phrasal idiom describes this condition as “being wise after the event”. This condition frequently comes with a feeling of regret at having not thought of the riposte when it was most required or appropriate.

7- Grandiose delusion

Grandiose delusion

In this type of delusion, a person overdraws his / her sense of self-importance and believes that he or she has special powers, talents, or outstanding skills. At times, the subject would believe that he/ she is a celebrity (for example, a rock star or Jesus Christ). Normally a person with this delusion is convinced he/ she has achieved some great accomplishment for which they have not received enough credit or recognition.

8- Presque Vu (Almost Seen)

Presque Vu

Presque vu is almost similar to the “tip of the tongue” feeling – it is the strong sensation that you are about to go through an epiphany – though the epiphany rarely happens. The condition of presque vu can be very disorienting, perturbing and distracting.

9- Jamais Vu (Never Seen)

Jamais Vu

Jamais vu stands for a familiar situation which is not recognized. It is often regarded the opposite of déjà vu and it comprises a sense of eeriness. The observer does not distinguish the situation despite knowing logically that they have been there before. It is usually described as when a person shortly doesn’t recognize a person, word, or place that they actually know. Chris Moulin, a researcher at Leeds University, inquired 92 volunteers to write up “door” 30 times in 60 seconds. He accounted that 68%of his guinea pigs showed symptoms of jamais vu, such as starting to doubt that “door” was a real word. This makes clear that jamais vu might be an indication to brain fatigue.

10- Déjà Senti (Already Felt)

Déjà Senti

Déjà senti is the mental process of having “already felt” something. This is totally a mental phenomenon and rarely remains in your memory subsequently. A person diagnosed with Déjà Senti has accounted that “What is occupying the attention is what has occupied it before, and indeed has been familiar, but has been forgotten for a time, and now is recovered with a slight sense of satisfaction as if it had been sought for. The recollection is always started by another person’s voice, or by my own verbalized thought, or by what I am reading and mentally verbalize; and I think that during the abnormal state I generally verbalize some such phrase of simple recognition as ‘Oh yes—I see’, ‘Of course—I remember’, etc., but a minute or two later I can recollect neither the words nor the verbalized thought which gave rise to the recollection. I only find strongly that they resemble what I have felt before under similar abnormal conditions.”

You may consider it as the sensation of having just mouthed, but acknowledging that you, actually, didn’t utter a single word.

11- Déjà Visité (Already Visited)

Déjà Visité

Déjà visité is a rare mental phenomenon and it exemplifies a preternatural knowledge of a new place. For instance, you may have a go at it your way around a totally new town or a place you may have never been before, and knowing that it is not possible for you to have this knowledge. Déjà visité is related to spacial and geographical relationships, while déjà vécu is related to temporal happenings. Nathaniel Hawthorne reported about an experience of this condition in his book “Our Old Home” in which he visited a ruined castle and had eerily known everything about its layout. Later on, he was able to trace the experience to a poem he had read many years early by Alexander Pope in which the castle was precisely described.

12- Déjà Entendu (Already heard)

Deja Entendu

Déjà Entendu is a sensation in which sounds or voices have been heard in the past.

13- Déjà Vécu (Already lived through or experienced)

Déjà Vécu

Déjà vécu is what most individuals are actually going through when they think they are experiencing deja vu. Déjà vu is the feeling of having seen something before, whereas déjà vécu is the sensation of having seen an event before, but in great detail – such as recognizing smells and sounds. This is also typically accompanied by a very strong feeling of recognizing what’s gonna come next. In my own experience, I have not only recognized what was going to come next, but have been able to tell those around me what’s gonna come next – and I was 100% correct. Well, this is a very strange and unaccountable feeling…

14- Déjà Voulu (Already Wanted)

Déjà Voulu

Déjà Voulu is a sensation of disturbance of memory in which an individual believes that his or her present desires are incisively the same as desires held some time earlier.

15- Déjà Vu (Already Seen)

Déjà Vu

Déjà vu is the experience of being sure that you have experienced or seen a new situation before – you experience as though the event has already occurred or is repeating itself. This condition is typically accompanied by a strong sense of familiarity and a sense of strangeness, eeriness, or bizarreness. The “previous” feeling is generally assigned to a dream, but from time to time there is a very sure sense that it has really happened in the past.

May 12 2009

50 Celebrities who have / had Alzheimer’s Disease


Alzheimer’s Disease is a progressive degeneration of the brain, with symptoms of memory loss, disorientation and other intellectual impairment, which claims about 23,000 American lives a year, making it the eighth leading cause of death among the elderly in the United States of America.

Early onset Alzheimer’s can develop in people as young as forty, but most victims of this affliction develop it after the age of sixty-five. This form of dementia is particularly insidious, as it robs those with it of their mental faculties and memories.

Celebrities have become quite the “royal line” in our country. When a celebrity has a particular disease or health problem, we tend to discover all we can. Here is a list of 49 (plus 1) famous people/ celebrities that succumbed to Alzheimer’s Disease.

1- Joe Adcock
Joe Adcock
American first baseman and right-handed batter in Major League Baseball, known for his years with the famous Milwaukee Braves teams of the 1950s.

2- Mabel Albertson
Mabel Albertson
An American actress, best know for her role in the television sitcom “Bewitched”.

3- Dana Andrews
Dana Andrews
An American film actor, best know for his role in the Oscar winning movie “The Best Years of Our Lives”.

4- Sir Rudolph Bing
Sir Rudolph Bing
An Austrian-born opera impresario and a General Manager of the Metropolitan Opera in New York.

5- James Brooks
James Brooks
An American muralist and abstract painter who won the Logan Medal of the Arts.

6- Charles Bronson
Charles Bronson
An American film actor, best known for his role in classic films such as “Once Upon a Time in the West”, “The Magnificent Seven”, “The Dirty Dozen” and “The Great Escape”.

7- Abe Burrows
Abe Burrows
An American author, humorist and director for radio and the stage.

8- Carroll Campbell
Carroll Campbell
A U.S. Republican Party politician, best known as a Governor of South Carolina.

9- Joyce Chen
Joyce Chen
A Chinese chef, restaurateur, and entrepreneur.

10- Perry Como
Perry Como
An American singer and television personality who was inducted into the Long Island Music Hall of Fame.

11- Aaron Copland
Aaron Copland
An American pianist and film score composer.

12- Willem De Kooning
Willem De Kooning
A Dutch abstract expressionist artist.

13- James Doohan
James Doohan
A Canadian character and voice actor, best known for his role in the Star Trek series.

14- Thomas Dorsey
Thomas Dorsey
A gospel music legend.

15- Tom Fears
Tom Fears
A Mexican-American footballer.

16- Louis Feraud
Louis Feraud
A French fashion designer and artist.

17- Arlene Francis
Arlene Francis
An American actress, radio talk show host, and game show panelist, best know for her role as a panelist on the television game show “What’s My Line?”

18- Mike Frankovich
Mike Frankovich
An American film producer (right).

19- John Douglas French
John Douglas French
A famous physician for whom “John Douglas French Alzheimer’s Foundation” is named after.

20- Barry Goldwater
Barry Goldwater
U.S. Republican Party politician, best known as a five-term United States Senator from Arizona.

21- Rita Hayworth
Rita Hayworth
An American film actress, professional dancer and a sex symbol, best known for her role in the classic movie “Gilda”.

22- Raul Silva Henriquez
Raul Silva Henriquez
A Chilean Cardinal of the Roman Catholic Church and Human Right advocate.

23- Charlton Heston
Charlton Heston
An Oscar awarded American actor of film, theater and television, best know for his heroic roles in “The Ten Commandments”, “El Cid” and “Ben-Hur”.

24- Mervyn Leroy
Mervyn Leroy
An Academy Award-winning American film director, producer and actor.

25- Jack Lord
Jack Lord
An American television, film, and Broadway actor, best known for his role in the American television program “Hawaii Five-O”.

26- Ross MacDonald
Ross MacDonald
Kenneth Millar; a crime fiction writer famous for his widely read series of hardboiled novels set in southern California and featuring private detective “Lew Archer”.

27- Burgess Meredith
Burgess Meredith
A two-time Academy Award-nominated American actor, best known for portraying Rocky Balboa’s trainer Mickey Goldmill in the Rocky films and The Penguin in the television series Batman.

28- Iris Murdoch
Iris Murdoch
An Irish-born English author and philosopher, best known for her work regarding ethical and sexual themes.

29- Edmond O’Brien
Edmond O’Brien
An American film actor best known for his role in D.O.A.

30- Arthur O’Connell
Arthur O’Connell
An American stage and film actor who appeared in 1941 film Citizen Kane.

31- Marv Owen
Marv Owen
An American third Baseball player.

32- Molly Picon
Molly Picon
An American actress and lyricist.

33- Otto Preminger
Otto Preminger
Legendary Austrian-born Jewish film director.

34- Bill Quackenbush
Bill Quackenbush
A Canadian ice hockey star.

35- Ronald Reagan
Ronald Reagan
The 40th President of the United States of America.

36- Harry Ritz
Harry Ritz
An American comedian of the famous “Ritz Brothers”.

37- Sugar Ray Robinson
Sugar Ray Robinson
Legendary American Boxer.

38- Norman Rockwell
Norman Rockwell
An American painter and illustrator, best known for his work for “The Saturday Evening Post”.

39- Daniel Simon Scott
Daniel Simon Scott
An American Artist.

40- Irving Shulman
Irving Shulman
An American author and screenwriter.

41- Betty Schwartz
Betty Schwartz
The First woman who won an Olympic gold medal in track events.

42- Kay Swift
Kay Swift
An American composer of popular and classical music, probably the first woman to compose a complete musical score.

43- Alfred Van Vogt
Alfred Van Vogt
A Canadian-born science fiction author widely known as the most prolific and complex writers in his genre.

44- E.B. White
E.B. White
Legendary American writer.

45- Harold Wilson
Harold Wilson
A Prime Minister of the United Kingdom from 1964 to 1970.

46- Maurice Ravel
Maurice Ravel
Classical French composer and pianist.

47- Ferenc Puskas
Ferenc Puskas
Legendary Hungarian footballer.

48- Adolfo Suárez
Adolfo Suárez
Spain’s first democratically elected prime minister after the end of Francisco Franco’s dictatorship.

49- Terry Pratchett
Terry Pratchett
An English novelist, best known for his critically acclaimed comical work in the fantasy genre.

50- Auguste Deter
Auguste Deter
Well – she is not a celebrity- but the first person diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. RIP.

May 11 2009

8 Anorexian Celebs You May Never Have Seen Before!

One of the more uncommon health disorders to be lately discovered has been Anorexia Nervosa, a psychological disorder characterized by loss of appetite with secondary malnutrition and hormonal changes.

The condition, which is fundamentally categorized as an eating disorder, has been evidenced to show signs of emergence during the early teen years. Moreover, the disorder has also indicated signs of being highly prevalent within girls, with only rare cases of men suffering from it being evidenced. In this article, we will show you fun pictures of 8 celebrities who appear to be affected with Anorexia Nervosa.

1- Angelina Jolie

Skinny Angelina Jolie

2- Lindsay Lohan

Skinny Lindsay Lohan

3- Jessica Simpson

Skinny Jessica Simpson

4- Jennifer Aniston

Skinny Jennifer Aniston

5- Christina Aguilera

Skinny Christina Aguilera

6- Keira Knightley

Skinny Keira Knightley

7- Lindsay Lohan With Nicole Richie

Skinny Lindsay Lohan With Nicole Richie

8- Elisha Cuthbert

Skinny Elisha Cuthbert

Image courtesy of the Freaking News