Jul 28 2009

3 Ways to Cope with Anxiety Attacks Naturally

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Stress is one thing. Anxiety attacks are another. They cripple your daily life. They stop you from living. They paralyze your minds and thoughts. They send you into an emotional tailspin with no end in sight, but a complete crash. Anxiety attacks affect millions of people, keeping them from living productive, happy lives. The panic isolates loving, social people from their closest friends and loved one.

Yet, panic attacks do not have to be the crippling, debilitating force they are. For many people, learning to control them will help them lead longer, happier and more successful lives. The key, like stress, is learning coping mechanisms to hold back anxiety, before it morphs into panic and an attack ensues.

1. Breathe easy

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A steady, calm breath in a heated moments cools an anxiety attack. Learning to breathe effectively steadies the blood flow, calms the mind, eases the nerves and ultimately clears the head. When you breath, take in all the air you can for several seconds, then slowly exhale, let the air go. Continue this steadily for anywhere from thirty seconds until several minutes, depending on how strong the attack is. When done, shake out your arms and legs to keep the blood flowing and relax.

2. Rethink the Situation

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The tightness. The pangs. The anger. Mental stress manifests itself through panic attacks. Remember most attacks start in the mind as a response to external stress. Therefore, the solution is in your mind. Consider rethinking your situation before the attack takes over. If you’re feeling stressed, imagine yourself as someone else, another person watching you interact with the world. In this case, their perspective would often be that your situation is not as bad as it seems. You’re stressed, but more than you should be. Ask the third-party, all the positive characteristics about your life. A constant stream of positive thoughts is a key weapon when it comes to fighting panic attacks.

Imagining yourself as someone else opens you to a new experience where you see yourself more objectively for a few moments.

Some people create imaginary friends that fulfill the role of the third party. They imagine, “What would my imaginary best friend say to me?” Because it’s their best friend, the response will be soft and gentle.

3. Practice before you Panic

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Simulating a panic attack might seem like the worst thought for some, but a fire drill is better than being unprepared for a full-blown blaze.

Imagine a panic attack before it happens. Imagine the worst panic attack. Imagine your thought process. Then when you think you might be at the brink of an anxiety attack, practice breathing. Think happy thoughts about your life. Remember pleasant childhood memories like the pies your grandmother made or the community park where you swung happily with friends. Grab a picture of a happy time and imagine yourself in that situation. Feel those pleasant emotions.

Do this several times and train your body to respond differently. By doing this, the next time you’re in an anxiety attack, your subconscious should give you better control over the attack. The mental trigger of a happy thought will trigger better breathing, a calmer state and stave off a full-blown panic attack.

The practice also teaches you the negative thoughts and emotional roots of your panic attack. Knowing the thought processes shows you where to let the healing begin.

Learning to cope with your panic attacks will help you cope with stress and the rigors of daily life. If you learn to cope, you will breathe joy into your life where stress used to live.


May 8 2009

Top 15 Most Astonishing Coincidences of All Time

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Each step in life is colorful and interesting. Life is exciting; and full of coincidences. Some very minor, but at times – very amazing. Here is a list of 15 of the most astonishing and incredible coincidences.

1. Historical Coincidence

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The lives of Thomas Jefferson and John Adams, two of America’s founders. Jefferson designed the Declaration of Independence, showing drafts of it to Adams, who (with Benjamin Franklin) helped to edit and hone it. The Continental Congress sanctioned the document on July 4, 1776. Amazingly, both Jefferson and Adams died on the same day, July 4, 1826 – exactly 50 years from the signing of the Declaration of Independence.

2. Hotel Discovery

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In 1953, television reporter Irv Kupcinet was in London to attend the enthronement of Elizabeth II. In one of the drawers in his room at the Savoy he discovered some items that, by their identification, owned by a man named Harry Hannin. Coincidentally, Harry Hannin – a basketball star with the famed Harlem Globetrotters – was a good friend of Kupcinet’s. But the story has yet another twist. Just two days later, and before he could tell Hannin of his lucky discovery, Kupcinet received a letter from Hannin. In the letter, Hannin told Kucinet that while staying at the Hotel Meurice in Paris, he found in a drawer a tie – with Kupcinet’s name on it.

3. Taxi

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In 1975, while riding a moped in Bermuda, a man was accidentally struck and killed by a taxi. One year later, this man’s brother was killed in the very same way. In fact, he was riding the very same moped. And to stretch the odds even further, the very same taxi driven by the same driver – and even carrying the very same passenger struck him!

4. Golden Scarab

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From The Structure and Dynamics of the Psyche: “A young woman I was treating had, at a critical moment, a dream in which she was given a golden scarab. While she was telling me this dream I sat with my back to the closed window. Suddenly I heard a noise behind me, like a gentle tapping. I turned round and saw a flying insect knocking against the windowpane from outside. I opened the window and caught the creature in the air as it flew in. It was the nearest analogy to the golden scarab that one finds in our latitudes, a scarabaeid beetle, the common rose-chafer (Cetonia aurata) which contrary to its usual habits had evidently felt an urge to get into a dark room at this particular moment. I must admit that nothing like it ever happened to me before or since, and that the dream of the patient has remained unique in my experience.” – Carl Jung

5. Revenge Killing

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In 1883, Henry Ziegland broke off a relationship with his girlfriend who, out of distress, committed suicide. The girl’s enraged brother hunted down Ziegland and shot him. Believing he had killed Ziegland, the brother then took his own life. In fact, however, Ziegland had not been killed. The bullet had only grazed his face, lodging into a tree. It was a narrow escape. Years later, Ziegland decided to cut down the same tree, which still had the bullet in it. The huge tree seemed so formidable that he decided to blow it up with dynamite. The explosion propelled the bullet into Ziegland’s head, killing him.

6. Twins

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The twin brothers, Jim Lewis and Jim Springer, were separated at birth, adopted by different families. Unknown to each other, both families named the boys James. Both James grew up not knowing of the other, yet both sought law-enforcement training both had abilities in mechanical drawing and carpentry, and each had married women named Linda. Both had sons, one of who was named James Alan and the other named James Allan. The twin brothers also divorced their wives and married other women – both named Betty. And they both owned dogs which they named Toy.

7. Book Find

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In 1973, actor Anthony Hopkins agreed to appear in “The Girl From Petrovka”, based on a novel by George Feifer. Unable to find a copy of the book anywhere in London, Hopkins was surprised to discover one lying on a bench in a train station. It turned out to be George Feifer’s own annotated (personal) copy, which Feifer had lent to a friend, and which had been stolen from his friend’s car.

8. Photographic Coincidence

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A German mother who photographed her infant son in 1914 left the film to be developed at a store in Strasbourg. In those days some film plates were sold individually. World War I broke out and unable to return to Strasbourg, the woman gave up the picture for lost. Two years later she bought a film plate in Frankfurt, over 100 miles away, to take a picture of her newborn daughter. When developed the film turned out to be a double exposure, with the picture of her daughter superimposed on the earlier picture of her son. Through some incredible twist of fate, her original film, never developed, had been mislabeled as unused, and had eventually been resold to her.

9. Mystery Monk

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In 19th century Austria, a near-famous painter named Joseph Aigner attempted suicide on several occasions. During his first attempt to hang himself at the age of 18, a mysterious Capuchin monk interrupted Aigner. And again at age 22, the very same monk kept him from hanging himself. Eight years later, he was sentenced to the gallows for his political activities. But again, his life was saved by the interference of the same monk. At age 68, Joseph Aigner finally succeeded in suicide, using a pistol to shoot himself. Not surprisingly, the very same Capuchin monk – a man whose name Aigner never even knew, conducted his funeral ceremony.

10. Falling Baby

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In 1930s Detroit, a man named Joseph Figlock was to become a remarkable figure in a young (and, apparently, incredibly careless) mother’s life. As Figlock was walking down the street, the mother’s baby fell from a high window onto Figlock. The baby’s fall was broken and Figlock and the baby were unharmed. A year later, the selfsame baby fell from the selfsame window, again falling onto Mr. Figlock as he was passing beneath. Once again, both of them survived the event.

11. Royal Coincidence

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In Monza, Italy, King Umberto I, visited a small restaurant for dinner with his adjutant, General Emilio Ponzia- Vaglia. When the owner took King Umberto’s order, the King discovered that he and the restaurant owner were virtual doubles, in face and in build. Both men started talking about the outstanding resemblance between each other and found many more similarities.

a) Both men were born on the same day, of the same year, (March 14th, 1844).
b) Both men had been born in the same town.
c) Both men married a woman with same name, Margherita.
d) The restaurateur opened his restaurant on the same day that King Umberto was crowned King of Italy.
e) On the 29th July 1900, King Umberto learnt that the restaurateur had died that day in a mysterious shooting accident, and as he expressed grief, an anarchist in the crowd then shot him dead.

12. Poe Coincidence

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In the 19th century, the famous horror writer, Egdar Allan Poe, published a book called ‘The narrative of Arthur Gordon Pym’. It was about four survivors of a shipwreck who were in an open boat for many days before they determined to kill and eat the cabin boy whose name was Richard Parker. Some years later, in 1884, the yawl, Mignonette, foundered, with only four survivors, who were in an open boat for many days. Soon enough the three senior members of the crew killed and ate the cabin boy. The name of the cabin boy was also “Richard Parker”.

13. Twin Deaths

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In 2002, Seventy-year-old twin brothers expired within hours of one another after separate accidents on the same road in northern Finland. The first of the twins died when he was hit by a lorry while riding his bike in Raahe, 600 kilometers north of the capital, Helsinki. He died just 1.5km from the spot where his brother was killed. “This is simply a historic coincidence. Although the road is a busy one, accidents don’t occur every day,” police officer Marja-Leena Huhtala told Reuters. “It made my hair stand on end when I heard the two were brothers, and identical twins at that. It came to mind that perhaps someone from upstairs had a say in this,” she said.

14. Poker Luck

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In 1858, Robert Fallon was brutally killed, an act of vengeance by those with whom he was playing poker. Fallon, they claimed, had won the $600 pot through jockeying. With Fallon’s seat empty and none of the other players eager to take the now unlucky $600, they got a new player to take Fallon’s place and hazarded him with the dead man’s $600. By the time the police made it to inspect the killing, the new player had quadrupled the $600 into $2,200 in winnings. The police called for the original $600 to pass on to Fallon’s next of kin – only to find out that the new player turned out to be Fallon’s son, who had not seen his father in seven years!

15. Childhood Book

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While American novelist Anne Parrish was surfing local bookstores in Paris in the 1920s, she discovered a book that was one of her childhood favorites – Jack Frost and Other Stories. She took the old book and showed it to her husband, telling him of the book she tenderly remembered as a child. Her husband picked up the book, opened it, and on the flyleaf found the dedication: “Anne Parrish, 209 N. Weber Street, Colorado Springs.” It was actually Anne’s very own book!


Nov 27 2008

7 Ways to Spot a Liar using Mind Power

It is said that the man is by nature, trusting – and inclined to be fooled by more bewitching, innocent-looking cute faces. Still, men are also by nature intelligent: and can learn a few mind power tips to make sure they AREN’T fooled again…


It’s not human nature to discover lies, but we can learn how. Thanks to the God-gifted  Mind Power.

1) Be Aware


Can you really trust her? You wish to, don’t you? A Beautiful Liar…

Be aware of your own preconception. Pretty and killer faces are likely to fool you into thinking the person is more dependable. Con artists — and dates — that are good-looking are psychologically more likely to convince you they’re telling the truth. With respect to biology, we are more prone to symmetry in nature. Overcome this preconception. Liars don’t wear it on their faces. Be aware of your own motives, as well. Sometimes liars do well because we just want to believe what they say. “Really? I can make a million dollars at my poolside, merely because you say so?” or: “Honestly? You didn’t arrive home last night because you were rescuing a family of puppies from drowning, and it took you all that time to find them all good homes?” Come ON.

2) We Won’t Get Fooled Again…


Microsigns are not usually this obvious – but they’re there. Pay attention.

Don’t get fooled by the stereotypes and notions. Not all liars blink, flash their eyes away from you, rub their noses, or shift uncomfortably. In reality, practiced and “master” liars DON’T. They’ll give you a fine, solid and confident look in the eye. To discover whether people are lying, pay deep attention to their mannerisms and their way of speech. Ready Set Go …Lets go! Is this a person who USUALLY rubs their nose, shifts uncomfortably, or flashes their eyes? If so, when they are lying to you, they may not actually do this. Concentrate on their DIFFERENT behavior. What you will be hunting, generally, are what psychology experts name “microsigns.” They typically occur for less than a second, but they point out “unfitting emotions.” Giveaways – very, very slight and delicate- that the person is trying to tell one thing, but actually feeling another.

3) Catching the Signal…


This male cat, Simba, is a master hypnotist… Believe me! Are you smarter than a 5th  Grader Cat?

Research reveals that only less than 15 of almost 20,000 people studied have got a natural ability to detect these involuntary signals, and they aren’t all detectives and law enforcement officials. Look for a gesture in the middle of a positive statement, for example, or a suspiration, sigh. Although some people are naturally trained at this, with practice, this mind power technique can be easily learned.

4) Poor Plot Kills Liars


Liars who are telling you WAY more than you need to hear about their excuses are  probably not believable.

Some elements to look for in a liar include either a lack of specific detail in his story or too much detail. Give careful consideration to the circumstances. For example, often a liar has to cook up a story on the spot. But in that instance, to ferret out the lie, nonchalantly let the liar to repeat the story by making questions. The details will conflict or be discrepant. In the case of too much specifics, this will be clear, because the liar will be talking and pretending way too much.

5) “First-Person” Words


For liars, it’s never “all about me.”

As reported by a language-analysis software based study, liars also tend to make use of less “first-person” words such as “I” or “me” in their spoken and written speech.

6) No Face-to-Face


Damn him for lying us, damn him damn him damn him.

Liars, it’s been observed, find it easier to lie on the phone, perhaps because of the depersonalization – and no face-to-face conversation.

7) Skepticism and Critical Thinking


I’m not a liar like this bloody humankind. ..

The main thing is to keep in mind that while one does not wish to lose one’s faith in humankind, a little skepticism goes a long way.